Depression can make you think that nothing you do matters. If you’re a mom or a caretaker of children, you think you’re closer to Peg Bundy than Donna Reed. The funny thing is that when we’re down, we concentrate on what we don’t do. What we don’t realize is that the things that the children in our lives love and remember about us are not the fabulous trips to Disney World or big flashy Christmas presents or even cake you made to look like a life-size Darth Vadar.
Children remember the little things you do, things you probably don’t even realize you are doing. Things that make you “you”, the very you you’re probably putting down right now. I discovered this when I read my daughter’s fourth grade paper “Someone I Admire.” That’s right, incredibly that someone was me, but I was humble enough not to rub it in her father’s face, at least not after the first day or so. I present this paper to you, unedited except for spelling and clarity (all those big words are hers), not to brag on myself (though that’s fun too) but to show you that children look at you in ways you probably ought to look at yourself.
Responding to the prompt “Someone I Admire”:
“Hey! So you wanna know who I admire? Well, I admire my mom and here is why.”
My mom is extremely smart. She was a teacher for a while and then she decided to be a librarian. She was a marvelous student. Sometimes a teacher’s pet. Soon she got her diploma in Language Arts from high school then she headed off to college. She had to take a school on the computer to get a degree so she could be a librarian. Now she is a librarian at (the university).
My mom is super fun! She likes the things I like and loves to hang out with me. Whenever we are done getting ready in the morning she would show me and my sister something hilarious on You Tube. She would play Life with me and name her fake kids Ketchup and Mustard. Sometimes she lets me play one of her computer games. She would even play video games with us.
My mom is immensely kind. She never gives me and my sister spankings. When I am down, my mom comforts me. My mom makes friends with everyone. She will be there to help if me or my sister has fallen down. My mom will always be there for me no matter what.
I wandered into the living room to see my mom. I plopped on the couch right next to her. I saw my mom looking very extraordinary with her hair in a bun. I smiled and her and she smiled at me. I love my mom and she loves me. That is why I look up to her.
By Thing One
This paper made me cry, because I had no idea she had ever noticed the things she points out in this paper. Watching You Tube videos? I never thought of that as a great parenting move, especially since you’re not always sure what you’re going to get on that site. Nor did I think about playing games with them. I’m just immature and I like playing games. I also like playing with them because they are hilarious and incredible little people. I often think I want to be like them when I grow up.
Apparently, though, I already am exactly what they want. And it’s hard to be depressed about that.
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Loved this post.
Thank you!
Nice work Mom! 🙂
Thanks. But a lot of it was my daughter’s work.
🙂 I meant ‘nice work’ for making such an impression on her.
I often wonder also what my kids will remember about growing up, hopefully me too as someone they admire.
You’re mom. They’ll think you’re great. Until they write that tell-all book about you. Just kidding. They’ll only do that if you get famous. 😀
Awww! It’s always the little things that make the biggest impact 🙂 All kids ever want is someone to take the time for them, to play, make them laugh, be there when they’re down. Anyone who places too much importance on monetary things won’t end up with such lovely children xx
Thank you, scienerf! It’s easy to be there for kids that are so amazing. I wish I could take all the credit, but some is just them. I bet if Toby could write, he’d say the same of you. 😀
Awwww Alice, this is wonderful. I agree with you, the kids wont so much remember the big fat presents (I tell myself this because I can’t afford them), but the cuddles love and fun become a part of who they are and also who they will grow up to be. Your daughter is eloquent and intelligent. What a gem. I would have cried too!
I can’t really afford the expensive either, therefore my kids are pretty impressed with little, lol. Like going to a hotel room – that’s a vacation in itself. Thank you for your kind words about my daughter. She really is a gem and amazes me every tday.
We all dressed up for halloween and went tick or treating. The boys loved that. My youngest put his arms around my bloodied neck later and said, “That was the best day ever”.
The little things indeed matter.
Thanks for sharing, this was a nice reading.
Thanks, Doggy. It was something I just had to share.
Now this has made ME cry. What more could one wish in life than to be adored and looked up to by one’s children? Kudos to you for being the wonderful mom that you are! I hope that you keep this letter from your daughter in a special place where you will remember to take it out and read it whenever you start feeling down.
xoxo
I have it in my bedside table drawer now, but I do need to do something better with it. She’s in the 6th grade now, so I’ve had it a while. 😀 Thanks.
This is just the sweetest. You are a wonderful mom
Thanks so much. I have some wonderful kids too.
Obviously you are a fabulous mom and have terrific kids.
Thanks. They’re pretty cool.
It must be so nice as a mom to hear that your kids think such wonderful things about you.
It really was. Like I said, I was going “I’m great because I show you Youtube videos that occasionally have totally inappropriate content? Okay.” Lol.
I love that you look very extraordinary in your bun.
That one cracked me up too. I don’t remember ever wearing a bun. Maybe I was that day?
aaaaaaaaw isn’t that nice? Glad to hear your kids think you’re a great mom 🙂
Thanks. I was too. Beats that tell-all memoir I was expecting.
hahaha
Other people are usually better at knowing how marvelous we are. You are admirable.
Thanks, Sara. That means a lot.
This one made me cry. I agree, kids remember the little things. It’s those special moments with Mom that count and that letter shows what a great Mom you are. Your daughter is talented and intelligent and she knows you are marvelous – you should know it too.
She is pretty amazing – sometimes I look at her and I can’t believe she came from me! But yeah, it does make me feel like I’m doing something right to have her write a paper like that.
Yay! You’re doing it right. It’s so nice to have some kind of positive feedback. Also, librarians rock!
Yeah, we librarians are pretty badass. Thanks.
Awesome! It’s a beautiful thing when a kid reveals a flattering, but very serious truth on you. And we all know kids don’t do things like that just to flatter! Good work Mom!
That’s true. Thanks, Lulu.
Thanks for posting! Enjoyed it very much!