There is hope

the qiuet borderlineI just wanted to say a few things about hope and the road to recovery.

All of your hard work and patience will pay off eventually. I’m not saying that it is easy but as long as you have at least in the back of your mind that you really want to get better, then you will.

There are days when you will think there is no hope, I am hopeless and helpless but ever so gradually you will start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Like I say, it just takes time and determination.

Talking from my own experience, I see that time has been a healer for me too so it’s not just about quick fixes (unfortunately). At the beginning of my mental breakdown 2 1/2 years ago, I was naive enough to think that this would be something I’d battle a bit with for a few months, no hospitalisations needed and all the rest of it, but things snowballed and that’s exactly it – Things get worse before they get better.

Gradually, with the right mix of medications, therapy and self-help/motivation, you can make it. I really want to instil that point. It really is possible and it does happen.

I am at the point of taking a very active role in therapy and this has been a big turning point for me. Feeling better enough to be workable in therapy and starting to realise the things I have to work on.

Outside of therapy, I am constantly trying to work on myself. I read books about the road to recovery from depression and BPD, have a DBT workbook that I ordered from Amazon, and have also read a couple of self-help books which can and I think, should, be read more than once.

I’m not trying to paint just a pretty picture of this. I know that even I’m still going to have bad days, but gradually the good/OK days outnumber the bad days.

I’m starting to open my eyes from the depression more and more and see the world through clearer eyes. I’m starting to see that there is good in the world, it’s not all evil. There are good things to take from life, studies, being in a relationship, starting a family, friends, a career, leisure time and much more. Even just a 20 minute fast walk to get your heart pumping a bit and eating healthily to have a sense of wellbeing.

I know it’s not the same for everyone. Some people have worse things to deal with and overcome, but that’s what I’ve learned also is that each person is on their own journey and it is bad to compare yourself to others. I was told by my therapist that that is the first rule of therapy, not to compare yourself to others as each deals differently with their own issues.

You can do it. You really can. Just hold on (tight). You may slip and fall now and again or maybe even a lot but know that there will be better days ahead for you.

Feel good.

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15 thoughts on “There is hope

  1. This is such a wonderful, uplifting post. I know that when I sought treatment, I never expected it would take six years for me to become functional and well. Six very intense years of medication and other therapies. It was Hell to go through, but I have made it out the other side, and I’m happy, and I’m better than I ever was. I think you really bring to light something many of us are shocked to find out, and that often leaves us totally bewildered:

    “Things get worse before they get better.”

    But they do get better. With time, insight, and work – as you have done more work on your own in addition to therapy – we can make our way to a much healthier place in our lives. The key is to never give up.

    I am so happy to read such a positive post as this, and know that you are feeling hopeful. Love to you ~

    • Thanks Ruby.

      I certainly didn’t think it would take this long too and in many ways, I am still at the beginning of the process. I’ve got a lot of years to ‘fix’ when I hadn’t sought treatment but was self-harming and unhappy. And it’s only been 2 1/2 years for me since I sought treatment.

      Thank you so much for your kind words. I am really happy to be able to deliver such a positive post finally and not feel bad about delivering a post with negatives in.

      I love all of my fellow bloggers and wish them well xx

      • I feel a lot like I am at the beginning of things, too. I’m finally to a state I can definitively call “well”, and I’m so grateful for that. But I know I’m not yet ready to venture out looking for a job or anything like that so that I can move out of my parents’ home. Which is frustrating, because I know I would function better on my own, but I can’t afford it. I know, though, with all the years it took me to get here, it’s taught me enough patience that I can be okay with the way things are for now. Not just okay, but truly happy and grateful. I think that’s one of the gifts journeys like ours gives us, the ability to appreciate how far we have come, instead of just dwelling on where we want to go next.

        I honestly was so happy to wake up and read this post from you, it was a wonderful start to my day. I know I don’t comment too frequently on your blog, often I have a hard time figuring out what to say. But I read every single word of each and every post, and I have been rooting for you in a very special way, almost like you were my cousin or other something. You really speak to my heart, and I am so, so very happy when I read posts like this one, and I see you making such progress towards a happier life.

        You are a sweet soul, Miss QB, and you deserve only the best that this world has to offer you.

        • You are very kind.

          I wish you well on your continuing journey.

          May you have a smooth ride with as little bumps as possible! X

    • The pleasure is all mine!! Thank you for the kind comments.

  2. You definitely sound like you are on the road to recovery and understanding about your illness. It is so good to see the positive nature of your post. Keep it up….Diane

  3. I think the single most important gift you can give to someone who is suffering is hope, and you have done this in a very simple, real way. Just telling it like it is. And I am so glad you are feeling this hope yourself now……..

    • Thank you. I really want to show that there is hope, as bad as things can seem. X

  4. HOPE. There’s the key to major depression. I lived without hope for years. It is not a good place to be. I’m glad you have gotten the help you need and are making the changes you want. Such a good place to be. 🙂

  5. I think you put your finger on it when you said there are no quick fixes. Modern society is all about quick fixes. No one likes toughing it out, developing character, tolerating adversity, losing weight in a healthy and sustainable fashion, delayed gratification, etc, etc. But it’s necessary. Patience and faith that things will get better, that perseverance will eventually pay off – I don’t see how anyone can get by without that, but people sure keep trying. It’s a surefire way to undermine yourself.

    Good for you for keeping hope alive. It’s so hard when you’re in a dark place. I remember steadfastly resisting hope because it was too scary – if things got better, then they could get worse again, and I didn’t feel like I could handle that. Fortunately things are better now. As you say, it just takes time.

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